As inter-provincial trade grows, the impact of trans-provincial carbon flows on China's carbon reduction effectiveness is becoming increasingly apparent. To foster inter-provincial cooperation in reducing carbon emissions, it is necessary to account for provincial carbon emissions and clear up the inter-provincial carbon transfer relationship. Using the MRIO model, this study calculated the embodied carbon emissions based on production and consumption in 30 provinces of China in 2012 and 2017. Based on this, networks of embodied carbon transfers in inter-provincial trade were constructed by the SNA method, and the characteristics of the networks were analyzed from the "relationship" perspective. The results show that: ① In China, inter-provincial carbon transfer is a regular occurrence, and Beijing, Shanghai, Guangdong, Zhejiang, Jiangsu, Anhui, Henan, Hebei, Liaoning, Shanxi, Inner Mongolia, Xinjiang, Chongqing, and Shaanxi are more influential in China's inter-provincial carbon transfer system than the others. ② The embodied carbon transfer network of China's inter-provincial trade is intricate in nature, and the network could be divided into three major communities with "Hebei-Inner Mongolia-Beijing", "Jiangsu-Zhejiang-Henan", and "Guangdong" as the community cores, and the provinces in the same community have stronger relationships for carbon transfer. The results indicate that reducing carbon emissions requires not just controlling "quantity" but also managing "relationships", establishing regional collaborative mechanisms, and enhancing efficiency to reduce carbon emissions requires the combination of controlling "quantity" and managing "relationships".